?

Log in

Surfing the web can be a very insightful experience..no really, I mean that!
I read a posted list of items the brought back every motherly cliche I had ever heard.
I reminisced on my own mom, who while
 combing my unruly curls or teaching me to do some household chore would pause and say things like..
"If I knew in my youth what I know now.." and "I wish I could show you what I have seen and learned so you will not experience it"
At the time as every other child, I was eager to be done with the chores and her requests and continue unto the important business of play. I clearly remember thinking: " oh no! Here we go again with the preaching and mothering."

Now as I perch on the sharp verge of turning 50,  I realize I am the ultimate cliche.. I have turned into my mom!
All this came to mind as I sat reading a post on the web about a list of items written by a 90 year old.
My first though was :" I would like my children to read this,  then maybe they can realize that all those things I have been repeating are not grandma and mom's little quips but have been every mom's and grandmother's quips from time immemorial" alas but children still do not listening.

Here is the list ,some are really wise, others just make me smile.

Quoted from the Web:
1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this matter?'
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.
35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's,we'd grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
42. The best is yet to come.
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."


Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old

Travel

Usually around this time of the year 
an urgent need to travel takes over my every thought 
The need to go away and see other places
large cities, historical sites, museums and/or ancient ruins.
but not this year.

For some reason the urge is not there
instead there is a void
an aching need to retreat  somewhere
 a voice telling me to sit and listen to nothing in particular
to partake of quiet reflection  
a need to imbibe in nature.
Where can I go to satiate this hunger?
Where can I go to be on my own?
Alone but not lonely..a retreat for my soul
 

Regrets

I sit this sunny afternoon listening to cartoons play on the TV and memories flood over me like a warm shower on an frosty morning before commuting to work, pleasant at first but anticipating the chill makes me wish I was still under the warm covers.
Regrets..that's it..
They feel like a cold morning after the warm shower we call the present.
Sometimes I tell my self that regrets are for losers, but the chill creeps up around me.. that knowing feeling.
I know I missed some chances in life because of my hasty choices.
But only careful thinking after these hasty choices have saved my neck.

 
There is a smile in my lips when I meet someone and in an instant I see it flash in their eyes
I am being categorized, filed along with others, into their boring list.
Most people usually look at me and in me they do not see the places I have explored and what things I have experienced.
They could not imagine.
No I have not done any fantastic thing, no huge accomplishments, no incredible adventures.
But in a half a century I have done my share of wild enjoyable things.
So I usually give my heartfelt wish to all who I meet,
Live and live well!
 

Catastrophy

 
A frustrating road block to my small efforts to write a novel.
I have lost my little ring bound notebook.
I had the basis and character delineation for a novel.
I am lost, looking everywhere in my house, desperate to retrieve the notes and recapture the ideas for the main characters.
my biggest fear is that it was left somewhere
it has traveled with me for 3+ years.

Writer's Block: Time may change me ...

People often focus on the things they'd love to change about their lives. What parts of your life would you choose to keep exactly the same?

I would love to change my type "A " personality for a milder one.
I would like to take the perky down a knotch

Writer's Block: Love is deaf

The question was whether you would put up with a spouse's different taste in music?

I already do..there is a slow complacent acceptance that comes after 14 years
What are some simple things we can teach kids to do to take care of Mother Nature?
We must teach children respect for themselves and others accompanied by responsability for their actions, all the best intentions in preserving the world will be dashed if the new generations feel entitled to do just whatever they wish with thier refuse and disrespect themselves and others.
Just respect nature, people's yards, your own home, city, state, country. you have to live in them don't make it a sty.
Simple things you can do not to damage things that are yours or others, don't tear that limb from that tree, don't toss that plastic bag , can, fastfood meal wrappings or trash on the road, don't trash peoples yards, don't think someone else will pick up after you.
Don't disrespect the world around you, it will disrespect you right back, that is not a threat it is A WARNING.
If only we teach a few members of the next generation to take care of their trash, maybe the next generations will have more to enjoy and then teach their children.. well, you know how it works.

Okay off my soap box now.

Writer's Block: Comped

What's the best compliment you've ever received?
While staying at a friends house for a summer weekend I took a cat nap on their terrace divan, an unexpected visitor arrived, saw me and said.
"That girl looks like an angel!"


Money

We struggle with it
we miss it
we need it
we hate it
it changes us

Money

Some do everything for it.

Money can be a great tool for evil or a prompter for good
just like a gun

Do you have control of it ?
Does anyone have control of any source of power?
Will it corrupt you?
Will it change you

Tell yourself what you like to hear but it already has